Unnumbered (to my everlasting relief!)

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What is your current relationship status? Married. "In sickness and in health," yo.

What sort of people do you like, as far as what their interests are in life? I like people who are confident and interesting and postive and can see absurdity in everyday life. I don't care what their interests are specifically, but they should be something related to using their brains in some area. They don't have to be "intelligentsia" but intelligence is good. One of my very good friends is dyslexic and adamantly NOT academically oriented; he calls himself a Redneck. I love him to death in spite of all the reasons we shouldn't get along. He reminds me of all the reasons I shouldn't judge people by their exterior.

What physical traits do you look for in a potential interest? As in romantic interest. See previous answer, and add in good lips and the right shape of hands to hold mine.

What kind of fashion-sense attracts you? Comfort is important. That means the person should wear whatever they want to wear, whatever makes them feel comfortable: designer clothes, shlubby jeans, T shirts, sweats, Hollister. I don't give a shit, unless they are actively dressing to impress. Step back on that bigtime. Dress with confidence (and wear the right size, please!).

What kind of hair style do you find attractive on a potential mate? I love long hair in guys, as long as it's kept clean and tidy. I really don't like the whole bald/shaved look, mostly because not so many guys have the right shape heads. Having said that, I understand the practical reasons for it and if it's comfortable for the guy, I'm fine with it.

What is the usual age range you look at? I'm not really looking, but I've recently discovered that the actually age for "Middle Aged" has risen rather dramatically. ;-)

What traits turn you off? Self-orientation in everything. Crazy behavior. Over compensation for perceived inadequacies. Lots of other things, but it's late and I can't think of anything else specifically.

Do you prefer to date various people or do you pretty much fall into monogamous relationships quickly? Uh...non-monogamous relationships always made me very confused and uptight. I'm only now learning how to multitask. ;-)

Are you afraid to ask people out on dates? Yes, but mostly cuz Beast would be cranky if he were to find out.

If you're single right now, do you wish you were in a relationship? n/a

What are the positive points about being single? Never having to answer to someone else (I'm going to stipulate that there are no kids in this single life). Having to plan for only one person, instead of checking with every-damn-one before making a fucking schedule. (Is this a sore point??) Eating what I want, when I want. Turning off the TV/radio when stupid crap comes on. Not having to listen to someone when I'm cranky. My money is my money. Less shit in the house.

What are the negative points about being single? Having no one nearby to bounce random ideas off of. Loneliness in general, and potential isolation. Not as much money in the family pot.

When single, do you often find yourself longing for companionship? n/a (How can I possibly remember, since the last time I was actually 'single' was junior year in college, when life is all about who's with who, etc.??)

How well do you handle rejection? Er, generally or romantically? Romantically...no clue/I've forgotten. Otherwise, I handle it VERY badly. Very badly indeed.

Do you miss your last sweetie? FUCK no.

Do you think it's better to look for love or let it find you? I think it's a great idea to keep your eyes open and be aware of possibilities in all situations. But don't be stupid and chase down the Asshat Road just in case all the time. Asshat Road is the trailer park of relationships.

What's the longest relationship you've ever been in? 23 years and counting, officially.

Do you think couples should spend a very large amount of time together or space things out a tad? I think that the answer to this question is 100% dependent on each couple. Some couples can be together 24/7/365; other couples would kill each other if they did that.

Have you ever found yourself worrying about commitment? Er...yeah? I dunno. I wouldn't call it that.

When involved with a person, do you try to think about the here and now or do you often think of the future? I have great difficulty in living in the here and now, ever, about anything. It's all about the future.

How do you prefer to handle disagreements? I prefer to get them addressed as they happen rather than shooting out shit that happened 4 months ago in an argument. That is just fucked up.

How do you feel when your mate is mad at you and won't tell you why? I feel that there are ominous argument clouds on the horizon. I get very pissed. However, I should say that if the information is preceded with something along the lines of wanting to talk to me when he gets his head together, I'm much more ok with that.

What's the longest period of time you've ever had a crush? I crushed BIGtime on WG for 4 years. He's still pretty much a great guy, but...life...and motorcycles...and hospitals...and 20 years...have intervened.

Have you ever confessed your feelings to a crush? Inadvertantly, online. Hi, W!

Do you tell a lot of people when you have a crush? I probably don't need to. All my female friends knew about W. Nowadays, I don't really crush that often, and I rarely discuss it. It's just too weird.

Has someone who had a crush on you ever confessed to you? Uh...not that I recall right now. Oh, well, maybe Briny...? Does that count? Hmmm....

Would you get involved with someone if they had a child already? Dude, if I were single at this age, I might be inclined to think that most guys in my 'market' would have kids. If not, that would be a Potential Giant Fucking Red Flag!

Would you get involved with someone if they were previously married? See above. However, I'd be very aware of how they discussed their former wife. Just as I would with anyone discussing previous relationships as a whole. This goes for regular friend-friends, as well.

How big of an issue is religion to your compatibility? It's important. It's not a deal-breaker; Beast was unchurched when we dated and that has worked out all right. ;-)

How big of an issue to you is your mate's ethnicity? Wouldn't it be oh-so-liberal of me to say "No probs"?? Well, from my personal perspective it would be no problem. Dealing with our families, our different cultures, society at large...that would be VERY problematic. sigh.... Let's put it this way: if Sparky falls in love with someone outside our ethnic group, I would care more about the individual than the ethnicity.

In a potential mate, how important is intelligence to you? Oh, damn. Define "intelligence." They have to be smart. But smart doesn't mean 47 degrees and so forth. Smart means...able to deal with life in a sensible way. Lots of educated people are pretty stupid.

In a potential mate, how important is a sense of humor to you? Ab-so-lute-ly CRUCIAL. If I can't laugh with you, we're done. There's the door. See ya.

What makes your heart flutter and brings a big cheesy smile to your face? Laughter. Surprise and joy in someone else's face. Pride. Giggles--OMG, giggles set me up for anything.

What was your first kiss like? Ron's was shocking and wonderful (and short). First boyfriend kiss ever: AWEsome.

What part of a person's body do you find most attractive? Face.

What's the first thing you look at when you look at someone you're attracted to? Lips. I dunno, but face generally, I guess.

How important are the looks of a mate's face to you? Well, dude...yeah, I have to like the looks of that face. Even if there are changes in the face, if there's an overlay of memory that brings me back to love...that works.

How important are the looks of a mate's body to you? See above.

When you kiss someone for the first time, is it usually you who initiates it or the other? I don't know. Probably other, but it's been a long while.

Have you ever casually made out with someone who you weren't seriously involved with? Not since I was 19. Or 20? Maybe 21.... huh.

Were you single at the time? Yes.

What are your ticklish areas? Depends on motivation and mood. I'm less susceptible than I once was.

Have you ever turned down an offer for sex? Yes.

Would you stay with a lover if the love stopped but the sex was still enjoyable? No. Not even.

Do you believe in love? Yes. It's all around. Even on the worst days, I know that. It's actually part of the problem.

Do you believe in love at first sight? I don't think I've ever experienced it. I believe others have.

Has someone ever told you they loved you? Yes. Many many times.

Have you ever told someone you loved them and meant it? Yes. Ditto.

Have you ever told someone you loved them and not meant it? Uh, no. However, there have been times when I've said "I love you" when I was beyond ANNOYED with someone!

Have you ever been married? Yup.

If you're currently not married, do you foresee yourself ever tying the knot? I. Am. Fuckin. MARRIED!

Do you plan on having children someday? Nada más. But I'm excited about grandchildren in a decade or so. ;-)

Have you ever had your heart broken? On a regular basis. I think it's happening now, again.

Have you ever been dumped? Not so's I've noticed, or cared about.

Have you ever dumped someone? Yuppers.

Has a romantic companion ever made you cry? Yes. In a very meaningful sense, and recently.

Have you ever made a romantic companion cry? Yes.

Have you ever had an emotional pain so bad it made you sick or physically hurt? Yes. Oh, boy, bigtime yes.

Have you ever learned an important lesson as a result of a break up? Yes. Am I going to share it. Not now, not here.

Have you ever gotten back together with someone after breaking up? Yes. And then we got married.

Do you believe there's hope for people after they get back together? Uh, well, yeah, sorta by definition.

Have you ever broken up with someone and remained friends afterward? Yeah-ish. Till I left for college.

Have you ever broken up with someone and become bitter enemies? No. CBA to fight about shit at that point.

Have you ever broken up with someone and lost touch? That's pretty much the norm, eh?

Have you ever gotten back in touch with an old flame after a time of more than 3 months of no communication? Nope.

Do you ever check up on old flames without actually contacting them? I've cyber-stalked some guys, yeah.

Have you ever longed to get back together with someone? No, not really. Most of the guys with whom I was involved...well, let's just say it just wasn't working. I never felt that I'd made the wrong decision breaking up.