Situation Sunday

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from last week

Situation #1
You are back in the dating game, after 20 something years of being married. You are in your 40's. You meet some one you really like, and have been on a few dates....you really like this person. When do you tell him that you have a "problem"...A disease that affects you. It is not contagious...PKD: A kidney disease where you kidneys are enlarged and keep pushing forward, and cysts that keep recurring in four major organs? You feel healthy and all, but at times it is a major setback? When and how do you let them know about this "baggage"?

Wow. I'd probably let it ride while sussing out his feelings about health issues in general. The good thing is that if he's over about 45, he'll be likely to have some basic health things himself: bad knees, high cholesterol, whatever. However, at some point it would have to come up. I'm sure there are things that I would need to be doing the keep my health under control--meds, diet, checkups--as part of my regular life. The earlier everyone is on the same page, the better.

Situation #2
A couple that you have known, and dealt with, the past 15 years. Very nice people that have adopted a mentally challenged boy. They rented this house for the past 45 years {they now are in their late 80's}; their adopted son lives in a separate apartment. They have just been told that their landlord has died and a distant relative now owns the place and gives them a order to vacate. They have 2 months to find a place to live. They are heart broken. And cannot afford today's rent of $2000 a month. How do you help them?

I have to preface my answer by saying that, had I been involved in this scenario, I would have been campaigning all along for them to find a way to make home ownership work.
At this point, I'd bring in the troops and help them sort, purge, and pack while calling in some favors on finding them a new place to live, preferably a senior community nearby. The good thing about living in a smallish city for as long as I have is that there are plenty of people I know who could help.

The next situation....is just made up.
Situation #3
You have just been told by your doctor that you have a very rare disease, youf blood can only flow to one [set of] extremity[ies]: your arms or your legs. You have to choose which ones, the other shall get amputated....which do you choose?

I'd choose arms. I could get around in a wheelchair (though I'd have to move) but I need my hands for almost everything I do.